I disagree: We have the power to be who we want to be within relationships, and we have the power to use our own actions to affect and guide a relationship as best we can, but the purest truth about relationships is that they exist between two or more individuals. Meaning, of course, that the other party is free to act how they want to act, and affect the relationship in any way that they want to. This is both the pain and the power of relationships: two people working towards the same purpose is magnificent, two people with two different ideas is like working at cross purposes: like two cooks in the kitchen, working simultaneously on the same dish, but unable to agree if that dish is just a quick dessert or a main course.
Very valid. I agree--we have the power to be actionary (heh) in our relationships rather than reactionary. We have the power on an individual level to make our part in the relationship the way we want to be. But there's two tango-ing here. We (collective we--two people in any relationship) have power to together figure out the relationship's main-course-ness and act thusly. Really I just wanted to say thusly. Anyway. Relationships can change. But yes, it takes two. But first it takes one.
I disagree: We have the power to be who we want to be within relationships, and we have the power to use our own actions to affect and guide a relationship as best we can, but the purest truth about relationships is that they exist between two or more individuals. Meaning, of course, that the other party is free to act how they want to act, and affect the relationship in any way that they want to. This is both the pain and the power of relationships: two people working towards the same purpose is magnificent, two people with two different ideas is like working at cross purposes: like two cooks in the kitchen, working simultaneously on the same dish, but unable to agree if that dish is just a quick dessert or a main course.
ReplyDeleteVery valid.
ReplyDeleteI agree--we have the power to be actionary (heh) in our relationships rather than reactionary. We have the power on an individual level to make our part in the relationship the way we want to be.
But there's two tango-ing here.
We (collective we--two people in any relationship) have power to together figure out the relationship's main-course-ness and act thusly. Really I just wanted to say thusly.
Anyway. Relationships can change.
But yes, it takes two.
But first it takes one.